We don’t have a tv at home, but my husband and I usually rent a movie from itunes or watch an online documentary on the weekends after the kids are asleep. We recently discovered that CTV and CBC have lots of documentaries online and the other day we watched Hyper Parents & Coddled Kids (click here to watch the full program online).
In some ways it was hard for me to relate to the parents profiled in the documentary who are constantly shuttling their kids to and from tons of extra-curricular lessons and academic tutoring. I believe kids need lots of free time just to play. The only activity we have scheduled currently (besides school) is swimming lessons once a week, and play dates happen on the weekends only. This leaves lots of time for visits to the park down the street…
… climbing trees
… and being creative in a completely self-directed way, not to mention making the couch cushions into space ships, printing machines, animal dens etc.
On the other hand, I can totally relate to the desire to want only what’s “best” for a child. For example, we are sacrificing long-term financial savings to have our kids go to a private school. The Waldorf-inspired kindergarten they’ve gone to focuses on learning social skills through imaginative play and the kids are not exposed to any formal academics. We chose the Montessori elementary school because it focuses on independence and self-directed learning so kids can learn at their own pace, and (woo hoo!) there’s no tests, grading or homework. In theory the kids will develop a love of learning for learning’s sake. Anyways, it occurred to me that this choice probably means we’re being hyper parents with regards to education even though it’s not the typical status-oriented private school as described in the documentary.
Then there’s the whole issue of keeping kids “safe”. Although it’s been a while since I visited Free Range Kids, it’s a good read for keeping things in perspective. In terms of outside play, I must admit I do feel more comfortable when my boys play in the back yard. Of course they prefer to play in the front yard and now they’re allowed to go up and down the block a bit….as long as I can still see them when I check up on them!
In our neighborhood it’s rare to see a child going to/from school by themselves even in grade 2 or 3. My husband grew up in the same neighborhood and he distinctly remembers walking by himself to school in first grade. Last summer when my oldest son was seven we said he could start walking/running/scootering around the block by himself to give him some practice since the school he goes to is outside our neighborhood.
The take home message for me after watching the documentary is that our job as parents is to facilitate independence, not dependence. Did you see the documentary too? What did you think?
(top image via cbc.ca)
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